"60 miles away from where I was cost me almost $10k in all expenses"
It cost us less to move a family of four over 2500 miles away. And that was moving enough stuff to fill a 2800 square foot house. And even after all that, I wish I would have just gotten rid of more stuff. I still have boxes that I haven't opened three years later and furniture that I replaced because it didn't quite work. I don't know what possessions are such an anchor around your neck. But if your situation is so dire, cut the chain my friend.
I will say this as well, if you can't hack it in the midwest, the most places near jobs on coasts are not going to be any cheaper. Though most jobs to pay more. However, land is still pretty cheap in Alaska. And if you can hunt and fish you can cover a lot of your food that way. However, groceries and gas are not cheap up there.
Americans used to walk across the continent seeking a better life. People still walk from South America to here to do the same. No one said it would be easy, but if you want it bad enough it is still possible to better your situation. If you don't do it this year, you will be one year older when you do. The try not to focus on the things you can't control, but instead focus on the things you can. The trick is having the wisdom to know the difference.